Who do you need to become?
It is a widespread assumption that people transform after a major event in their lives. Let's say somebody is preparing for a trip. It would be safe to expect that this person who travels for a few weeks, to a different country, might come back with recently discovered preferences.
Picture your habits and beliefs as the clothes you are wearing. Now imagine you are this traveler, and your plane is leaving in three hours. Would you take off only with your jeans and shirt? Do you know the weather at your destination?
Maybe you don't know the if it's going to be hot or cold. Depending on how far you are traveling, you might also consider that the interpretation of "cool" and "warm" is relative. When packing, you would probably take a few garments of every kind, from shorts to coats.
After a few trips doing this, you would learn that it's not efficient to take such a big suitcase. So you would start investigating what to wear during your visit. You would become an expert traveler, always ready for the weather in whatever location you are exploring.
Back to the topic of this post: your future is like a far away land you have always wanted to visit. You can choose to pack everything you have in your closet and hope you'll be ready -or you can imagine how this future looks like and become the perfect person for that perfect possibility.
Even if your long-term future ends up being something completely different, it will probably be the outcome of your Journey to Congruency. As you become the person you want to be, you open new, better, more joyful possibilities for the next years of your life.
The exercise of imagining a new reality is called vision design or visioning. When you do it intentionally, it is the most important action step to discovering what you want for your long-term life. Your mind does it all the time, anyway. You might have heard its nickname: daydreaming.
Visioning is about seeing in the mind of your eye, as detailed as possible, the reality you want to create. We are talking about long-term visioning in this post, but vision design is also useful for planning goals or project outcomes.
Since vision design is a habit and depending on how much practice you have, it can take a bit of practice to get an Ultra HD image of what you want.
And even as you get better at it, it will happen the same thing that occurs to savvy travelers: you will discover that the little details are not important because you will be who you need to be to navigate the surprises.
Since I am sure you wouldn't like to wear Bermuda shorts in a glacier, I'll give you 5 tips on how you can practice visioning, and discover who do you need to become to create Congruency in your life.
Tip 1. Do it on purpose
Yeah, daydreaming is fun, but if you want to get serious about creating Congruency, it works better if you start practicing intentionality.My suggestion is that you set a specific day and time to do it, and just dive into the experience. It can be an every-Wednesday-at-8 thing or just a fun visioning dinner with your best friend.
Tip 2. Write, draw, record, or document in your favorite fashion
Your brain needs to receive the information to store it and use it. Your mind will create a picture that you need to code into language, so your mind can feed it back as useful information.
You can journal, have a meaningful conversation with a good listener that knows how to paraphrase or backtrack your thoughts, or you can map your ideas as a flowchart or infographic.
Tip 3. Be playful
Visioning works like a good movie: you need to be willing to believe in what you're are seeing to appreciate its quality fully.You can start with an if/then question, or thinking about the place where you want to wake up the day you turn 63.
And as you describe how you imagine your life 20 years from now, pay attention to how you look, how you move, how you interact with that context.
Tip 4. Reverse engineer your future self
Imagine your long-term vision involves biking through a lovely Mexican town after you retire. Your present self spends 12 hours sitting on a chair and doesn´t even walk to get the mail. See what I mean?
Congruency starts when this sitting, not moving at all, present self realizes they need to start getting in better shape to be able to bike around in their sixties.
Tip 5. Gather information
Become a collector, a researcher. Find more about places and situations, make your vision as informed as possible. This is the way dreams become goals. You make them real because you locate them in reality.You are capable of doing everything you imagine.
When we tell our brain a story, we learn from it. When we pretend we go through a process and assess all the possible turns and outcomes, it can produce, our brain stores the experience as something that really happened.
If you can imagine a story and go through it as if it was a movie, your brain will store the information it needs to file it as a situation you have already experienced. And this is important because, when imagining possibilities, you are only able to consider the options you already know.
If you are ready to get serious, head up to the post that will get you hands on: Eight steps to preparing your Journey to Congruency.
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