“You are enough.” But what does this mean?
Posts on Facebook tell you that “you are enough.” Books have titles and chapters to remind you that “you are enough.” People approach you sympathetically and say “don’t worry, you are enough.” I wonder if you know what does that mean? These words have become a made-up phrase that everybody wears on bracelets and repeats […]
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Four ways to silence other people’s judgments in your head
As we grow up within a group, the ideas, beliefs, and values that we learn become the criteria for our decision making. This structure provides us with certainty: we know what our community expects from us and we are rewarded with acceptance when we agree to it. Everything goes well so far. Until the morning you […]
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Guilt, needs, and judgment from your loved ones
As social entities, we exist as part of a group. This group welcomes us into the world and teaches us how to behave, what to believe, what to feel, and how to communicate. These behaviors, feelings, ideas, and language have one thing in common: they protect and sustain the well-being of the group. We build our […]
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Are you letting other people’s judgment stop you from being honest with yourself?
From hunger and sleep to compassion and growth, you are your wisest advisor. You know what you need better than anyone else. Every unpleasant feeling you experience is telling you about a personal need you’re not meeting. But how often do you check in with yourself? Even more importantly, what do you do with that information? It’s […]
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How to make sense out of senseless holidays so that you genuinely enjoy December
by Tania GerardHolidays are the epitome of anachronisms. Especially those strategically scheduled at the end of the calendar year. It feels like nothing else is important to other people. That you are expected to joyfully be part of celebrations that have no content for you, that even clash with your ideologies; that trigger your stress levels […]
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